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10 Characteristics Of Self-Confident Women

By Alison

February 18, 2021


These 10 characteristics of self-confident women define who they are and how they behave.  If you want to be more confident then adopting these 10 characteristics of self-confident women will help.

Are you self-confident? Do you know how to recognise self-confidence in others? Self-confidence is important. Consider that if you didn't have any self-confidence, you wouldn't even leave the house.

Self-confidence is having certainty in yourself to handle any issue that can come up in your life. It's also the certainty that you can make positive things happen.

When you can do these two things, you have control over your destiny. A foundation of self-confidence is necessary to get the most from your life.  You will feel more fulfilled, happier and far less stressed.

The world is your oyster if you believe in yourself enough!

Do you have these characteristics of self-confident women?

1.  High Standards For How Others Treat Them

Those that lack self-confidence tolerate others mistreating them. That doesn't mean that a woman with a lot of self-confidence will throw a fit when someone is disrespectful to them. But, it does mean they will draw attention to the behaviour. That is often enough to put an end to it.

Recognise that you are worthy of fair treatment.  To embrace the characteristics of self-confident women, surround yourself with people who inspire and encourage you. Don't waste time with people who are abusive or toxic.  They will drain your spirit and damage your confidence.

You deserve to be treated well.  Stick up for yourself; people will be more respectful of you if you do.

Many women I talk to struggle with how to deal with opinionated people who seem to overstep boundaries.  If you'd like to learn more about coping with opinionated people, please read my article How To Confidently Deal With Opinionated People

2. Make Eye Contact And Display Open Body Language

Have you noticed how self-confident women hold themselves differently?  They appear upright, shoulders back and take control of the space they occupy. I'm not talking about power poses, although they do have a place in demonstrating confidence. 

The body language adopted is open and inviting.  A characteristic of a self-confident women means she does not spend time looking down at her feet!

Another vital aspect is eye contact. 

Self-confident women hold their head up and look you directly in the eye.  Eye contact is not about staring someone out; that would be intimidating. 

 When someone confidently looks you in the eye, they're non-verbally saying; at this moment in time, nothing else matters; you have my full attention.

attentive woman one of the characteristics of a self-confident woman is displaying the right body language

Let your body language reflect that you are completely engaged with the other person

3.  Self-confident women are even-tempered

Another characteristic of self-confident women is they are even-tempered.  Confident women aren't easily thrown off their emotional game. They're in a pleasant mood most of the time. They take life as it comes and avoid overreacting. They don't feel insulted or slighted as easily as other people, which is part of their appeal.

Confident women manage their temper, are considerate to others and don't hold grudges.  As a result, they are more forgiving, understanding and accommodating to others.  Importantly they have learnt to master their emotions.  They understand that anger or emotional outbursts decreases their ability to make a positive impact.  Ultimately an emotional outburst can undermine your professional demeanour.

4.  Makes Goals And Plans

Every confident woman I've come across has a clear vision of the future she envisage for herself.  They create goals and plans to help them achieve what they want.  Their goals act as a destination, and the plans are the roadmap on how to get there.  Without having goals and plans, you can easily flounder, go off track and end up in a different place to where you want to be.

Without a solid plan, you are open to others influence.  Instead of following your vision, you get side-tracked into fulfilling someone else's goals.

Self-confident women stick to the plan they have designed for themselves.  But, this doesn't mean their strategy is set in stone.  They can also recognise when they need to pivot to reach their overarching goal.

5.  Is Assertive

When you're confident, you're comfortable going after whatever you want. Part of this is being assertive, which means you are disposed to or characterised by bold or confident statements and behaviour (Assertive | Definition of Assertive by Merriam-Webster)

  • The characteristics of self-confident women include a lack of hesitancy and fear.  She is confident that everything is going to work out in her favour.  Some people misinterpret assertiveness as an opportunity to be bossy or rude, but this is not the case.  The focus is on knowing what you want and taking positive action to achieve it.
  • Being assertive is having the confidence to ask for what you want. There's truth in the saying; if you don't ask, you never get.  If you struggle to ask for what you want, and in my experience, a lot of women do, please read my article 'Why you don't ask for help' to see what might be holding you back.
2 women smiling and working together

Being assertive means getting your point across without being aggressive

6.  Self-Confident Women Are Decisive

Another characteristic of self-confident women is they have an easier time making decisions and following through on them. If you're regularly indecisive, you could probably use a boost to your self-confidence. Make a few decisions that you've been putting off and act on them. You'll feel more confident immediately.

Decisions are easier and quicker to make if they are in line with your values.  Values provide a blueprint for your life, and knowing what's important to you is essential.  I urge you to take the time to get to know yourself better, and identifying your values is a crucial step to take.

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7.  Smile And The World Smiles With You

If you're confident, why wouldn't you be smiling? You have confidence in yourself and your ability to affect your world. You have a lot to smile about.

When you smile, you release all those lovely endorphins which are known to reduce stress.  Your body relaxes, and because of this, it provides a boost to your immune system.

People react positively to someone who smiles.  They see them as more approachable and friendly.  You can use this to your advantage in business meetings and appointments. Wouldn't you rather deal with someone who came across as friendly?

People that lack self-confidence often sport a nervous smile, but that's not the same thing. Other people can spot a nervous or a fake smile from a mile away.

8.  Take Risks

Taking risks is easier to stomach when you're confident in yourself and your abilities. And this is a vital characteristic of self-confident women.  Why wouldn't you take more risks if you expected success? The most successful people are highly confident and take the biggest risks. Of course, they do so intelligently!

They don't take risks that create a danger to themselves or others.  The risks self-confident women take are the ones that take them out of their comfort zone.  They challenge the fears that keep them small and open themselves up to new opportunities and experiences.

As women in the workplace, it's important to take calculated risks.  Your actions can positively influence and encourage other women in your business to copy your lead.  An exciting article, Why We Take Risks | Psychology Today, explains how we follow others' lead, so we also benefit.

Self-confident women are role models – think about all the other women you could help if you were to lead the way.

A characteristic of a self-confident woman says she who dares wins

Without taking some risks we can remain stuck

9.  Be Accountable

The reality of life is that we make mistakes.  We are human, after all.  A characteristic of self-confident women means she takes ownership of what she does.  They are accountable for their actions, acknowledge mistakes rather than blame others and work towards rectifying them.

Self-confident women demonstrate accountability by meeting agreed work standards and deadlines.  They deliver on what they say they will do and, as a result, foster trust in their abilities.  Their mantra is results, not excuses.

10.  Ability To Say No ... Nicely

This is important.

The ability to say "no" gives you more power over your time and emotional health. Studies have found that people who struggle to refuse requests are more stressed and depressed. A confident woman is comfortable saying the word "no" to others because she realises that saying no to one thing means saying yes to something more important.

If you struggle to say no, you will benefit from working on your self-esteem. You'll learn to value your time.  Time is limited, and you have the right to determine what you do with it.

Don't feel guilty.  You don't need to be rude, but saying no allows you to point the person in the direction of someone who would be able to help.  Perhaps someone who has more knowledge and time to help the person better.

woman boss sitting behind a laptop

Be the boss - self-confidence can make this possible

Self-confidence is a foundation for all success. Without self-confidence, you're unlikely to give yourself a chance to be successful.

These 10 characteristics of self-confident women are all important.  But don't think you have to work on all of them simultaneously.  Choose a characteristic to develop, and once you have mastered that, you can move onto the next one.  When you're looking to become more confident, my recommendation is to start with getting to know yourself better.  Once you understand what makes you happy, your values, goals and have mastered your emotions.  You will exude all the characteristics of a self-confident woman in your own right.

Build your self-confidence and take control of your life. Everything becomes possible when you believe in yourself.

About the author

For years, despite career success, I was plagued with inner doubt. I worried about what other people thought. I became anxious about doing things wrong, felt out of my depth, and struggled with imposter syndrome. Above all, I feared failing. So, I worked long hours to prove myself worthy. It was exhausting, and it took a toll. My relationships suffered - my husband and I were becoming virtual strangers - and I had no social life. When the ravages of my doubts began to affect my health, I knew something had to change. I know there is a better way to live. Let me show you how.

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