How To Build Your Confidence: 4 Simple Ways

There are many ways you can build your confidence.  None of which are a quick fix.  But you can set yourself up for success by adopting these four simple techniques.

When we look to build confidence, we need to establish a solid foundation.   If you adopt an attitude of ongoing learning, you can’t go wrong.  These four simple ways will impact your happiness and lead to a more powerful feeling of well-being.

After all, don’t we all want to be healthy, happy and confident?

Are you ready to jumpstart your confidence and become a better version of yourself in the process?

With a little intentional focus and practice, these four ways can help you become a better person and help you achieve your confidence goal.

Approach this with a growth mindset and you will succeed

1. Write in a Journal Every Day

I’m a huge fan of journaling.  I’ve been doing it for several years, and it’s a discipline I now find easy.

A journal is an excellent habit that can promote personal development and open your mind to the possible.

When you regularly write in a journal, you practice self-reflection and evaluation.  Through this, you can identify what is working in your life.   You can also identify where there is room for improvement. I always like to think that, as professional women, we are a work in progress, especially if you want to succeed at work.  There’s always something new to learn.

Daily journaling is an opportunity to process your emotions.  Through it, you can find patterns of thought that contribute to your struggles.   You can also find solutions to problems that are continually popping up in your life.

A habit of daily journaling can improve your self-awareness and enhance your growth-oriented thinking.  

Because it’s a private activity, you can build your confidence by working through your issues in a safe place.  Even better when you can put together a plan of action.

Build your confidence by being with people who support you

Healthy relationships are based on mutual support and consideration

2. Foster Healthy Relationships

We are social creatures, and to build your confidence, it’s essential to have positive people around you.   

Your confidence, especially at the beginning, is fragile.  And life has a way of throwing curveballs at us from time to time.  If you have a good support network, you can get through even the most challenging times when your confidence may be impacted.

Honour the healthy relationships in your life. Seek out others with a similar mindset and remove the toxic people who have been holding you back.

When you look after your strong and helpful bonds, you focus on improving yourself.

An excellent way to find the right people is to think about the areas where you want to improve your confidence.  Perhaps there is someone at work whom you perceive to be particularly confident.  Get to know them and learn how they approach the situation.  If the person is a senior manager, you could ask them to mentor you.

3. Stretch Your Comfort Zone

In the comfort zone, no learning occurs. The magic truly happens when you stretch yourself.

If you want to build your confidence, you need to experience some disturbance in your life.  To push yourself, things have to be just out of reach, just beyond your current level of capabilities for learning to take place.

This zone, where things are a little bit too hard but not exceptionally so, is where your comfort zone ends.

You can extend your comfort zone in small ways every day.  Little steps can help you learn and cultivate your growth mindset.  Slowly you build your confidence.

The best way to start is to try small things.  For example, take a new route to work without using a map or talk to a stranger whilst waiting for a bus.  This doesn’t need to be a big conversation; you could simply wish them a good morning.

When you take small steps, you can extend your comfort zone, which will help build momentum for your confidence.

Give back to others and build your confidence

The most valuable thing you can give someone else is your time.

4. Give Back to Others

The act of giving back to others is a fabulous mood enhancer.  When we do something for someone else, it makes us feel good about ourselves.

You could do some voluntary work, help someone in need who lives locally to you or get involved in a community project. 

The benefit of this is two-fold.  You help a person who needs it, and you get to share your gifts and expertise with others.

You improve your own capabilities and help build your confidence, but helping others also allows you to see new viewpoints, ideas, beliefs and values.

The more you learn about how other people live, what they need, and how they think opens up new possibilities.

At work, you could do this by volunteering to look after a new starter.  Not only will you benefit from the experience, but it will also enhance your career prospects.

Giving back to others in need or teaching others about things you know is a beautiful way to build your confidence.  While at the same time you are improving someone else’s life.

Next steps when read good things happen when you ask for what you want

Next Steps

1.  Journal

Grab a new notebook, and on the first page write in big letters My Journal.  Many people struggle with what to write in their journal, so you could begin by writing about the challenges you face and what you feel about them.  Remember, this is your safe place, so you can note whatever is meaningful for you.

Make it a practice to write your journal daily and at the end of each week, read it through.  In this way, you can see if there are any common themes.  From there, you can start to put together an action plan.

2.  Review your relationships

Write down all the people you know and ask yourself the question.  Does this person help or hinder me? An excellent way to identify whether someone is a healthy connection is to consider how they make you feel. 

Do you feel comfortable in their company?  Do they make you laugh and support you when you get upset?

When you start to build a list of those who make you feel good, you build up a strong supportive network that will help you in your journey to build your confidence.

3.  Stretch Your Comfort Zone

Do you have something you avoid doing?  Or perhaps you are scared about a particular activity.  Try to come up with a tiny step you could easily take, and then commit to yourself to take that step.

You might want to build your confidence around people; a tiny step you could take is to smile at a stranger every day.  Not only will it make you feel happier, but you could possibly make a difference in someone else’s day

4.  Give Back To Others

You can make a world of difference to someone else’s life without even realising it.  We often take for granted the things that we are good at.  Think about something you excel at.  Perhaps you are a whizz on a computer, offer to teach others what you know.  It doesn’t have to be a big thing; it could involve sitting down with a work colleague and showing them a shortcut on how to do something.

If you want to find out more about volunteering in your local area, have a look at the Government Website page for more information.

Is there a cause that you are passionate about?  When we look to help others voluntarily, we forgive ourselves for our lack of knowledge.  However, you can build your confidence and expertise in one swoop. 

About the author Alison

A qualified UK based coach with 30 years of experience in personal development.

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