Do you dream of waking up each morning excited for the perfect day ahead? Or do you wake up with a little sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach?
Your days tend to look the same – boringly predictable.
- You get up
- Get dressed
- Go to work
- Come home
- Go to bed
And the next day is a repeat of the one before and the one before that.
It begins to feel as if you are on a Merry-Go-Round. But instead of bright twinkling lights and beautifully coloured horses. You are on a rickety old thing. The paint is flaking and the lights keep going on and off at random.
Instead of the twinkly happy music, it sounds more like a funeral march.
You work really hard but the rewards are few and far between. Basically it’s like you are on autopilot in your own life.
It can be soooo frustrating and downright depressing.
How To Make Things Better
But what if I was to say to you
Get Off That Merry-Go-Round Now
Would you want to?
Okay, I’m asking that question a bit tongue in cheek. Because when caught up in that cycle who wouldn’t want to get off. It’s exhausting.
If you are reading this, then you are looking for a change. But perhaps you don’t know what that change is, or how to go about it.
If you are feeling a bit lost then it could be because you haven’t yet identified the purpose in your life. What do you want to do?
That’s where I come in.
Letting Go Of the Mundane and Planning Your Perfect Day
The following is an exercise I have used when coaching clients.
It’s also an exercise that I do myself from time to time to see if I am on track to living the life I want.
It can reveal so much about what your true desires are, and also your biggest values. This technique can help you to see what sort of goals you want to set for yourself.
And you know, once you have goals you want to aim for. You have a purpose and something to work towards.
The Perfect Day Exercise
First of all I want you to get comfortable. Really comfortable.
Find some time when you can shut out the rest of the world. A time when you will not be interrupted.
Because we are going on an adventure of discovery.
The exercise starts with one big question.
What’s Your Perfect Day?
We are going to begin with a visualisation exercise.
Starting The Day
Start with how and what time you get up, and what morning routine you will have. It might involve a run in the park, a visit to your home gym. Or a big family breakfast.
Have a look around at your living space. What does it look like? Think about the sort of belongings you have, the colours that surround you.
What will you wear for your perfect day? Do you have a wardrobe full of designer clothes, or a uniform? Perhaps your ideal will be to have a minimalist wardrobe. With your favourite outfits all carefully sorted. The decision is yours.
Personally I have always dreamed of having a walk in wardrobe. For me it doesn’t have to be big as I am a big fan of the capsule wardrobe.
The Day Itself
Then think about what your perfect day is going to look like. Do you travel to work? Work from home or something in between.
What’s the weather like? What does your work space look like? Go through each step as if you are living it.
What does your day look like, who do you spend time with?
What does the end of your perfect day look like?
How do you spend your evenings? Do you go out to eat or, have a meal in with your family?
What sort of evening do you have planned?
What are your hobbies? Do you attend any classes?
Or perhaps your ideal evening is spent with a bottle of wine having a catch up with a good friend.
Whatever your day looks like, make it personal to you. Imagine yourself going through each of the steps as if you are actually living it for real.
Summary of Questions to Ask Yourself
Okay, so now you know the idea of the exercise in planning your perfect day.
Here are the questions without the fluff:
- What time do you get up?
- What do you have for breakfast?
- Do you have a morning routine? What does it look like?
- What will you wear?
- Think about the weather.
- What does your work day look like?
- What does your work space look like?
- Who will you be spending the day with?
- What does your evening look like?
- Who do you spend your evening with?
- What evening routine do you have?
At the end of the exercise, think about how you feel. Does the sound of your perfect day fill you with excitement? A sense of calm?
Relax and Revisit
Once you have had a chance to go through your perfect day – and don’t worry if you change it. This is an evolving exercise.
Commit your day to writing. It is best if you can make this as detailed as possible. But, if you prefer, note it down in bullet note form.
Then for the next few days. As you go through your day to day life, think about any changes that you would like to make to your perfect day. Do this until you feel happy with what you have written.
You want to be able to touch, taste, see, smell and hear what your perfect day comprises of.
Remember, this is your perfect day. Not anyone else’s. You are free to choose whatever works for you.
Contrast and Compare
The next step is to compare what your current day looks like in comparison to your perfect day.
One of the best ways to do this is to take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle.
On the left hand side write down your usual day. In the right hand column write down your perfect day.
Again, you can be as detailed as you like. In fact the more detailed you are, the stronger you will feel about your perfect day.
When you have written everything down. You can now analyse what you have written.
Think about what the real differences are between your ordinary day and your perfect day.
What you will find is that either your two days are quite similar, or vastly different. This is dependent upon how happy you are in the life that you are currently living.
Remember, there is no right or wrong way to do this exercise.
How You Can Achieve Your Perfect Day
Set An Action Plan
Once you have discovered the differences, whether they are big or small. Now is the time to set an action plan to bridge the gap between your usual days and your perfect day.
Think about all the things that you can do to bring you closer to that perfect day. These are your goals.
The next thing to do is then plan what steps you are going to take to bring you closer to that idea of perfection you have.
For example. The start of my perfect day is to wake up with sunshine and the sound of nature.
Now, this does not mean that I need to move to sunnier climes. Although I have to confess that does sound rather appealing.
More realistically, I could achieve this by investing in a wake-up light alarm clock.
Go through your list. Think creatively about how you could achieve the elements of your perfect day.
As the example above shows. Sometimes it does not mean having to spend lots of money or making dramatic changes.
Once you have a list of action items, make a plan. Oh, I do love a plan.
Making A Plan
Firstly make a list of all the things that you could do differently.
Then beside each difference, make a note of what changes you could make happen. Either immediately or in the near future.
You want to make that perfect day as realistic as possible.
Sadly we are not all going to be able to finance some big changes and winning the lottery is not a guarantee.
Even if the changes are not affordable right now, they are certainly something to aim for.
What might surprise you is that many differences have no financial value. Often it is more about the people you want to spend time with and the way that you want to invest your time.
Changes May Need Several Steps
Some changes may need a bit more thought and planning.
For example maybe you are currently single and want to find the right partner.
This might involve sitting down and thinking about the qualities you want in that person. Then joining different social circles or clubs to meet them.
Although I would urge anyone wishing to go down this line. First think about what level of love you have for yourself first.
Perhaps you dream of starting your own business and working from home.
This will involve doing some research into the sort of jobs that might be available. Or skills that you would like to develop.
Self-improvement is something I feel very strongly about. Look at ways you can improve your mind-set. Confidence building, assertiveness training are two great starting points.
Whatever the change, there are steps that can move you in the right direction.
Once you are going in the right direction, you will feel a sense of purpose for what you are doing. This in itself is hugely motivating.
This visualisation exercise is powerful. It makes you think about all the things that make you happy. It can be really revealing about what you consider to be the most important thing to you.
Here is the exercise in brief.
- Find some quiet time
- Answer the questions as fully as you can.
- Think about how you start the day. The day itself. And how you spend your evenings.
- Compare your usual day with you perfect day
- Set an action plan
- Take action. One small step at a time.
If you are not happy in your current life, then it is down to you to make the changes. No-one else can do that for you.
But what you will see is that changes can be achieved. A solid plan of action that gives you something to aim for gives greater purpose in life.
When you have a purpose, dealing with the mundane in the meantime can be more bearable.
If you struggle to find the different action steps, then coaching may be a good option for you.
If this is something that you would like to explore, then do contact me. I offer a free 30 minute discussion.
During which we explore your options and how I can help and support you to realise a step towards your perfect day.
I would love to hear if you have tried this exercise. What does your perfect day look like? I would love to know.
Please leave a comment in the box below.